Should Man A Have More Than One Wife?
Polygamy creates excess men who have no place in society. For every man who marries many women, then some
men can't find a wife. They will never have kids or buy a house or need to work hard and pay to the economy. In countries
where polygamy is practiced, they are likely to turn to gangs and rebellions. For instance, most North American families in
polygamous situations are on welfare. "The continuity of practicing polygamy indicate that males in this society ignore the
emotional and instrumental needs of the senior wives and their children in polygamous marriage"(Al-Krenawi 452). The
men cannot fiscally support all of the women and children, and the women are generally not permitted the freedom to choose
a career and work outside the family compound. In a modern society, polygamous marriages are neither healthy nor stable
societies. Only the wealthiest man can afford it, but many others won't realize it and will take on too many wives and children
and then expect the government to take care of them. Wives have to compete for affection, time, food, and stuff for their own children.
As the head of the family, men are ill-equipped a being the referee. They are usually unfair. There will not be any equality
between them, and he must love one more than the other. When that happen there will be too much jealousy among the wives.
He often will give enough money to the one he loves the most and the other wives will not be happy at all in their marriage and
have to beg for stuff. They all want the best for their own kids at the expense of the other kids.If the man has a family with both his
wives, he will always concentrate on the child of the woman he loves the most. When the child’s grown up and observes what their
father is doing, he will be not happy about it. They may perhaps become enemies and there will be no peace between them. When
there is no peace in marriage, between two wives, and their families as well, normally it ends up with divorce. Polygamy is only
practiced in backwards countries. No one would want to move to one of these places. It only works when women's rights are
eliminated, therfore they have no choice. It only works when romantic love between two people is eliminated because otherwise
the women have even more to fight about. The children barely know the fathers except as someone to fear. The women are lonely
and distrust their co-wives. They know that their sons may well be ejected from the community because there are not enough wives for them.
In a polygamous culture, a husband and a wife live together and their life proceeds in its normal course till the husband comes in
contact with a woman and is fascinated by her and the fancy for another marriage gets a hold of him. Then after secret discussions
and secret agreements, all at once a second wife steps into the house, the previous refuge of the first wife, and she grabs her husband
and her life."There are accounts of physical and emotional abuse, not only between husband and wives, but between sister wives as
well" (White 452). The new-comer makes a surprise attack by night on the life of the first wife. Evidently the mental reaction of the
first wife is bound to be nothing except that of grudge and revenge. There is nothing more distressing for a wife than to be hated by her
husband. According to an article in the Journal Of Comparative Family studies state that "women in polygamous marriages showed
considerably higher emotional distress, higher levels of fear and other psychological troubles. They had many more problems in family
operation, marital contacts, and life happiness as well” (Jordanian 567). The deadliest defeat for a woman is that she should feel that she
was unable to win and attain the heart of her husband, and see that somebody else has won him over. When the husband assumes an
attitude of stubbornness and capriciousness and the second wife maintains the stance of a surprise attack, thento expect patience and
strength from the first wife in these circumstances is hoping against hope.
Marriage is the most romantic creation of society because it unites the unaltered uniqueness of its participants. A woman is prepared
to feel that she is the one and only to her husband. But polygamy overthrows that pledge, establishing not a woman’s uniqueness, but her
ordinariness. Her husband marries her with the express understanding that she alone will not satisfy him. He requires others. She is scarce.
Polygamy result in endless rivalry and leads not to peace and concord, but to argument and trouble. How can any polygamous marriage be
happy when, by its very nature, it does not bring people togetherbut drives them apart? I do not agree that polygamy should be acceptable
because most polygamous marriage is unfair to the wives. It just causes more problems between the families.
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